Thursday, February 28, 2008

Relax And Release Your Inner Beauty

This is a guest post by Nancy T. Mindes...

Do you ever wish you could just hit the pause button because your life is constantly on fast forward? Is your life a continuous series of stress moments? Your face, your body language, even the way you talk and go through your day reflects what is going on inside you.

Maybe it’s time to create your inner spa.

Close your eyes and think of someone you know who is beautiful, yet by some standards, she would hardly be chosen for the cover of any fashion magazine. Still, she has something magnetic, a special glow that comes from within.

Beauty comes from living a healthy, happy life. It’s about enjoying the journey and feeling good in our skin. It’s about treating ourselves with the respect we deserve by doing the little things that make a big difference for both body and soul. It is remembering to pamper ourselves. Yes, believe it or not, you do deserve it.

It comes down to this: cosmetics and skin care can and do––enhance a woman’s outer appearance. However, there is more to being beautiful than meets the beholder’s eye, because real beauty comes from loving oneself. Give the inner you some TLC on a regular basis so the outer you can really sparkle.

Seven Simple Steps to Release Your Inner Beauty

Put yourself first. When you take care of yourself before everyone else, you will find that you become more at ease and infinitely more attractive. You will also be able to take better care of the people and things you really care about. You will become calmer in the process. Start by saying a gracious “No” to all the endless demands others make on your time to which you keep saying yes and regret later. Best-selling author and coach Cheryl Richardson recommends taking “pamper breaks with a special self-care treat.”

Play more. Do you ever ask yourself, “What is the point of doing all this work if I don’t have time to enjoy it?” Well start a new ritual. Each week, make a list of five things you love to do. Schedule “ME” Time into your planner before you plan all of your chores, errands and meetings. Make sure you do something playful for yourself each day. The more you play, the better you will look and feel, the better your performance, the more money you can make, the more love you can attract. You’ll have more energy and loving patience for family and friends, no matter what life throws at you. Go ahead, make a daily play date with yourself and keep it your sacred time.

Breathe. Do you hold your breath when you are on a deadline crunch, have three whining kids needing attention, or an SUV driver on a cell phone tailgating you in the fast lane on the expressway? Are you holding your breath right now? Breathing is the link between our bodies and the world outside. Breathing relaxes, invigorates and centers you. Yoga teacher and breathwork instructor, business owner and mother of two active toddlers Audrey Chin, recommends taking “Breathing Breaks”.

The Power of Meditation

Photo Credit: Elle Rigby

“Step one is to stop what you are doing and simply notice in the moment your breathing. Step two close your eyes then take three slow, deep inhalations and exhalations. Do this once in the morning; once after lunch, and, again, around the 4:00 p.m. slump time. It takes less than a minute and will change your perspective instantly.”

Smile. When you smile it is impossible to be upset and angry. Smiling relaxes your face, unclenches your jaw and helps relieve stress and tension from head to toe. It is an instant face lift and it releases healthy endorphins into the bloodstream. So, go on. Give us a smile.

Wear red lipstick. A schmear of scarlet is timeless and captures the feminine spirit. It will give you an instant boost of color and authority like nothing else can. Combined with a smile, you can’t help but look and feel beautiful. “When a woman has lost her lover, her job, when the dinner party is flopping…the birth pains beginning, the scandal breaking…the sudden streak of lipstick across the lips spells courage.” Harper’s Bazaar, 1946

Take a bath. Send the kids to the movies with your spouse or ask a friend to trade you some time. Lock the bathroom door and enjoy the great purifier of life: water. In addition to its cleansing qualities, a bath is deeply relaxing and restorative especially when it is infused with aromatic oils and bath salts which help to flush out toxins. Sharon Christie, president and founder of Aromafloria, offers this advice, “Since our sense of smell is a powerful influence on our emotions, when you need to relax, light a lavender scented candle and soakin a bath sprinkled with rose petals or a rose infused bath oil. The scent of roses lifts the spirits, cheers you up and acts as a skin firmer.” Cleopatra used roses as her signature fragrance because of its aphrodisiac qualities, which could hardly be a bad thing.

Do something for others. A random act of kindness, like paying someone’s toll or bringing a warm drink on a cold day to a person who must work outdoors. Reading to an elder shut-in, delivering meals to someone who cannot get out in the world or just being two willing ears to a friend who is going through a hard time can give you an inner glow. Think of a facial peel with heart.

Master the idea of life as a journey to be savored. In our goal-oriented society, we often forget to enjoy the ride. In his book, How to get What You Really,Really, Really, Really Want, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer tells us to “detach from the outcome.” It is a concept which frees us to focus on where we are at the moment, and enjoy the trip rather than engage in the constant, frantic race to the finish.

Nancy Mindes is a trained professional Attraction Coach who has helped hundreds of clients since 2000. She works with women who want to be audacious and bold, live rich, play big and do good. She has been an executive in corporate America at such companies as Merrill Lynch, Elizabeth Arden and The Fashion Group International. Her Audacious Confidence groups really help clients to ramp up their attraction quotient so they can play a bigger, more profitable and audacious game. Visit her website:

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1 comment:

  1. Hi Marie,
    This post is beautiful - it's funny how we get information when we need it. And I sure needed it - LOL.
    Also, thanks for the post - it was good to hear from you.